To an on-the-go-mom, being comfortable means everything. But we have a feeling that being comfortable means even more to the pregnant on-the-go mom. Former star of The Bachelorette turned lifestyle blogger and tv host, Ali Fedotowski-Manno, is tackling that job now, balancing work and life, with baby number two on the way.
With so much going on in her everyday life, the last thing Ali needs to worry about is which pair of shoes to wear. That’s where Børn comes in. We understand that for someone like Ali, comfortable, stylish shoes should be an absolute given: a non-negotiable part of getting dressed every single day.
Ali picked four styles from our Spring 2018 collection that best accommodate her life. To wear with her sundresses, she picked MAI EASY, a minimalist sandal. For a refined, minimalist look, Ali wore the CAYO slip-on loafer. For a necessary trip to get ice cream, she picked SUNBURST, a sneaker so stylish, lightweight and comfortable, that it was basically crafted for a mom like Ali. To prove that pregnant women can absolutely wear heels, Ali sported the comfortable SUTRA PERF sandals with an easy white outfit.
Ahead of the spring season, Ali had the chance to talk shoes and motherhood with us. Scroll down to see how she styled her Spring 2018 favorites. If you love the way Ali styled her Børn footwear, head to her blog to find out how to win a pair of our shoes!
Ali wears MAI EASY in Tan.
First off, congratulations on baby number two! In terms of lifestyle and style choices, how has your first pregnancy prepared you for this one?
Thank you so much! It’s still hard for me to wrap my head around the fact that I’m going to be a mom to two kids in just a few short months! However, this pregnancy has been very different than my first pregnancy; mostly in the way that my body is changing. Everything is happening sooner! My belly got much bigger much sooner, my body aches and pains started showing up a lot sooner and therefore my fashion had to change much sooner than in my last pregnancy. For example, I was able to wear non-maternity clothes through a good majority of my pregnancy the first time around. I would just stick with shift dresses and other loose fitting clothing.
However, since my belly has gotten so big so quickly with this pregnancy, I had to switch over to mostly maternity clothes a lot sooner. And like I just mentioned, with my bigger belly comes more aches and pains. Which is why having comfortable shoes is an absolute necessity! But here’s the thing; I’m not willing to sacrifice style or comfort! My shoes have to have both! And that’s why I absolutely love Born footwear. They have the cutest styles that are not only on trend, but are ridiculously comfortable! I’ve honestly noticed that I can be on my feet so much longer when I’m wearing Born shoes than when I wear other brands. And with a 1 1/2 year old running around, I need to be able to be on my feet as long as possible. That’s another thing that is completely different about this pregnancy than my last pregnancy. When I was tired during my last pregnancy, I could lay down and relax. That’s just not happening with a very active toddler keeping me on my toes!
Ali wears CAYO in blush.
Being pregnant, chasing after a toddler, and the demands of everyday life must keep you on your feet from morning until night. What small daily moments, amidst the madness, do you take comfort in?
I take comfort in my husband. Every single day, I remind myself how lucky I am to have a supportive partner throughout all of this. When I think about all the kick butt single moms and dads out there, I can’t help but be in awe of them. Forget comic book superheroes – single moms and dads are the real superheroes out there! I can’t imagine coming home at the end of the day and not having Kevin there to take on the parenting responsibilities when I just need a moment to myself. I try to do that same thing for him. I definitely take comfort in the fact that we have each other and we’re doing this whole parenting thing as a team!
Ali wears SUNBURST in blush.
You will soon welcome another member into your sweet family. In the coming months, after things have settled down at home, what are some big moments you’re most looking forward to?
It seriously brings the most ginormous smile to my face to think about Molly and her sibling interacting with one another. Our daughter Molly is such a loving little girl. She loves to give her mommy and daddy snuggles, and she especially loves to give her doggy Owen as many snuggles as he’ll tolerate. So I know that she’s going to be so loving when her little sibling comes along. I know it’s gonna be really hard at first. I’m trying to mentally prepare myself for that, but I feel like nothing can prepare you for it. Just like nothing could’ve prepared me for what it was like to become a mother.
I don’t think anything can prepare me for what it will be like to have two kids under two. But no matter how hard it is, I know it will all be worth it. The whole reason we wanted to have two kids close in age is so they can grow up together and play together. I can’t wait for those moments.
Tell us about your philosophy when it comes to dressing Molly. What do you hope she learns from watching you? Do you have any tips when it comes to dressing a newborn?
Molly lives in onesies, stretchy pants, and comfy shoes! Yes, I like to dress her up in cute little dresses once in a while, but for the most part I just want her to be comfortable. In fact, for the first year of her life we barely ever put her in a dress, mostly because she was learning to crawl and move around her world. I had thought a dress would keep her from fully being able to use her body. For instance, when she would try to crawl, her knees would get caught in the bottom of her dress and it would keep her from getting it right. So, I believe comfort is not only so she feels comfortable, but also so she can develop as best she can.
Shoes matter so much. Two things are important to me when it comes to her shoes. One, being able to put them on easily. It’s pretty hard to get your toddler to sit still for 30 seconds to get on their shoes so you want them to go on pretty easily. Two, they have to be comfortable for her. I made the mistake of getting Molly a really cute, but really cheap pair of shoes a few months ago. I bought them on a whim and after just a few hours of wearing them one day she got blisters all over her feet. It was heartbreaking! I felt like I made such a stupid mistake as her mother. That’s why I’m so glad that Born came out with a line of kid’s shoes. They’re so stinking adorable and Molly‘s little feet no longer have little baby blisters, which makes this mama feel much, much better.
Ali wears SUTRA PERF in brown combo.
What’s a piece of advice for a new mom that you wish you knew before having Molly, that you feel lucky to know now?
It’s funny, because I feel like someone did give me this piece of advice, but you can’t fully understand the advice someone is giving you until you live through your own experiences. The advice I wish I had taken before having Molly was to know that it’s OK to ask for help. Well, it’s not only OK, but you absolutely should ask for help! For the first eight months or so of Molly’s life, Kevin and I never left her with anyone other than us. We were those overprotective first-time parents that didn’t feel comfortable with anyone watching our daughter.
Looking back, it’s crazy to me that we waited that long. But after eight months of being with her constantly, I remember having a little mini-mental breakdown on the floor in my kitchen. I was holding her while she was crying and I was also crying because I was so stressed out. I needed a break. That was when Kevin and I both realized that it was time to look into a sitter so we could get a break when we needed it. I’d love to say that we totally learned from our mistakes and now get a sitter regularly so we can have time to ourselves, but I would be lying if I told you guys that. We’ve been on a total of five date nights in the 19/20 months we’ve been parents. Which is just sad.
I also don’t get a sitter during the week nearly as often as I should. I work from home a lot, and on those days, I try to be a mom and get my work done at the same time and any mothers out there reading this know that’s just not possible with a toddler. It’s impossible to get anything done when you’re watching them. So if anything, I need to keep reminding myself of this piece of advice and keep trying to make myself take this advice every single day. And I know once the second baby comes we’re definitely going to need to ask for help when we need it. Whether it’s a sitter, family, or friends, we have to know that people are out there who want to help and if you don’t ask for it, they won’t know you need it.
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